The demands of adult life in the 21st century can quickly become overwhelming.

Coming to understand myself as a highly sensitive person, I’ve accepted that most of the world moves at a faster pace than I enjoy. The daily torrent of digital information, the endless pressure to be productive, the many social engagements and community commitments... The list goes on.

Throughout university and in my early working days as a mental health support worker, my own blend of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and high sensitivity created the perfect storm.

I wanted so much to prove to others (and to myself) that I was doing well, but somewhere along the way my own self-care and well-being were relegated to the bottom of my to-do list. I became exhausted, weary, and resentful.

I blamed systemic structures for much of my distress - at university the demands of the course; at work my ever-changing shift pattern and lack of free time. But in this exchange I relinquished my own sense of agency. The truth is, I wasn’t holding up my end of the bargain. I had been living on instant noodles, ignoring messages from friends, scrolling my phone till the early hours every night, procrastinating on my work tasks. No wonder I felt awful.

I was neglecting to take care of myself, and that’s on me.

What’s more, I was striving to meet expectations that weren’t even my own.

After several cycles of burnout followed by some months of rest and introspection, things slowly started to look different. Now, I fill my own cup first, and I give my best when I am able. I respect my limits, and I ask for help when I need it.

Recovery is a process, and I’m still in it.

Gentle By Lynne was born from my desire to advocate for a different kind of life. For those whose think more deeply, who feel more intensely, who crave a slower, gentler existence, this space is for you.